“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25).

Husbands, that’s a phrase that will get the best of you if you let it - “as Christ loved the church” so we love. In moments of selfishness this phrase haunts me and jolts me back to God’s radical call to love and serve my wife just as Christ loves His bride. This sounds like an impossible task and on our own it sure is. However, “Through the Spirit’s internal work, we can draw on the vast reservoir of Christ’s love and pour out that love for our wives.” 

With the women’s retreat this weekend (as well as in all of life) it would be good for us husbands to remember our calling to love deeply, act quickly, and empty fully. Check out Tim's article below to see this in more detail.

In light of this, here are some questions to think about: 

- What are some specific ways we can serve and bless our wives before, during, and after the retreat? (I can think of a few things that involve a vacuum, a washing machine, a dryer, and some dishes that would directly align with my wife’s love language). 

- Are we willing to put on hold our needs and interests to attend to hers? What are her needs and interests? What if we actually asked and then did something about it?

-  What if we asked our wives, “How can I be praying for you?” or cared enough to say “What do you need from me that you’re not getting?”

These questions are not intended to condemn but rather serve as an invitation to saturate our marriages with the love of Christ in order to reflect His glory not ours. This is what marriage was created for and definitely worth fighting for. Husbands, it starts with us. 

 

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/how-to-replicate-cruciform-love-as-a-husband

Aaron Cotton, Family Discipleship Leader